me and my baby

31/365 LOLLY POPS....BY MAA

Today was one of those days, when you wake up in the morning, obviously late, feeling all guilty inside, your husband being all practical & sensed up, making you feel more guilty because you didn't help your mom rearrange. Got the sense of it? I guess not. But guess what happen on the most typical day just at the last hour, which turned everything upside down? Yes we got accepted on the Top Baby Blogs & even got upscaled from 131 to 121 within one hour! I can write all day long & eat all of your brains to the ruin but just call it a day & don't forget to cast a vote & show us some awesome love! You guys can also follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, You tube, Instagram & Email us!!

30/365  MOMENTS BY MAA

I have my friends asking me why I do it? Why I write a blog? Why am I DOING A 365 PROJECT?

After doing the meditation workshop, I didn't develop immense patience or even my irrational shouting to my husband didn't reduce in any way but I learned some important lessons. One of them was " Never try to explain yourself to others." So when somebody asks me these questions I just smile & write about it later in my blog. I know this may seem unorthodox but I can't help it!!

I first started writing when I was 10 or 11 years old. Most of them didn't get published in the school magazines because they were either very simple or the other way around. And I have always wanted to write a book. What could be more true & real than writing about your baby &  just for your baby. I just couldn't wait that long until somebody might publish my book & everybody else reading about it. Blogging may be the only platform out there where you could express yourself & grow along the way. Do I sound like a blog add or what?

And the pictures! One of the reasons it's addictive to me is the images of life. There is no stopping to that. I love colors, black & whites & my newest addiction has shifted to the video sites, Why don't you check out my favorite one out here!

I still don't have the answers to most of the questions but I definitely know one thing, I am the GREATEST MOMMY for my little girl & she grew inside of me. So Jian it doesn't matter how many times you say that you love your daddy more than me, I GOT THE KEY TO YOUR MYSTERIES GIRL!!!

We are going through rough roads down here. January has been a constant fight & I have so many doubts about the love month. I never tend to be too optimistic about romance. You never know when your husband forgets about it as he has been ( spontaneously ) a harmful busy bee all month long!

And you, young lady have been super fast, making mommy take more pictures & deleting almost everything. But there is always a silver lining, right. I am forced to edit the pictures & make them a bit useful & I hate editing. May be someday someone will create a software for the mommies out there, which would fix the blurriness!

No matter how many books you read or how many consultants you see, When you are put out there to take care of a tiny baby with tiniest hands & feet, you are lost. So talking to other moms helps to ease the pain. The husbands are as stoned as you are. So don't expect anything from them. Reading & witnessing other same mommies gave me so much relief. I thought I was the only mom who had bad dreams about leaving her baby in care of others & the husband cursing the crazy hormones on the way.

Knowing little things like your baby probably has sensitive skin if you have it or bathing the baby regularly, goes a long way. I have shared some of my thoughts here & here.

I am really not a product savvy person. On top it all, recently being constantly on the internet it taught me things like Chemicals can be rather harmful for your baby's skin. We face so many skin disorders where the main culprit is just a new cream or soap because it has a nice add going on the TV. I am still using the bed time range from Johnson's because the natural range is not available in my area & the bed time soothes the skin so well.
 Dress codes.....It really depends on the weather. But buying a 2 or 3 size larger helps or other wise you have to go shopping frequently & face problems like empty pockets or messy house with lot of cute children wear which you don't have the heart to donate even! I don't hold on to things but when I curate Jian's things it still gives me chest pains & tears. Natural cotton is always the best for baby's skin, layering can be done if it's a little chilly outside.

Foods....Breast milk is the best till 2 years of age & should be done exclusively till 6 months or 180 days, not a day less. Complementary food should be home made, freshly prepared with plenty of seasonal veggies & fruits. It should be tasty & flavorful. Because nobody likes bland food, no matter how less teeth you have or sick you are, right! Check out here for details or you can email me at hfarzana33@yahoo.com if you have any questions or other suggestions.

When a patient comes to a doctor, the first thing is to ask these 1000 questions, which may or may not help in the diagnosis. Some of them may be personal. And sometimes the patients reveals this shocking stories, that rather being a scientist, you become a therapist. Today I visited a patient in her home who needed an emergency consult, but found out she had nothing but Somatization disorder. Her mom died when she was 5 months old. She was raised by her grandmother, got married at 12 years old. Her husband remained abroad for almost 30 years & visited may be once every 5 years. On top of that her mother-in-law used to torture her by starving her & made her do hard laborious field & house hold work. These may seem unusual but almost 70 percent of rural women in my country are living under this same scenario. Most women are traumatized in their home by the people who are supposed to protect them. Being a woman is still a curse in this part of the world. Most fathers still don't want to look at their newborns because they are girls. All the other members look a little disappointed when they find out it's going to be a girl again!

While in those other parts of the globe, PINK is the color to be praised. A little girl seems to bring so much joy! Most of the moms & dads just want a healthy baby. Why is it like this? I mean does it feel any different when you hold a baby boy in your arms after he comes out of the womb? I quess I can't answer that because I got to hold a girl!

One of my close friends once told me that her husband told her the guys who have weak genes or sperms produce girls. It would have vanished from my mind if he wasn't a doctor himself. Don't know about you guys but I am with those kinds who can't leave the past in the past. So little lady don't you be like mommy, dragging things all over the place. Just leave the past in the past!

27/ 365 TANGLED BY MAA

You get amazed so frequently, so easily. Being a 3 year old may seem easy, but darling let's not get confused to what the world says. Today of all the days, your daddy went away for a boys night out! And here I am, desperately in need for a get together with the girls BUT WAIT! I am constantly catching a thief, trying to steal or mess mommy's things. We will get daddy when he decides to come back & promise me this that you will make a poor puppy face & make him feel all guilty so that he would treat us girls with a fun night out & your favorite ice cream!!

Today is husband-wife day! My sister told me this & I have been intentionally bugging my husband to give a treat. And the face he is making is just marvelous. See what your husband says when you deliver this information to him!

25/365 DOTTED BY MAA

I think everybody has a power of some sort. Well I don't know what my power is yet, but I definitely think you have a lot of power in your sac. You always cry at the perfect moment to show your dad that you are still a little baby. You almost every single time takes your dad's side even though you know he is wrong. You always seem to understand my weakness. Jian you say all these big girl things to capture me at the last moment. Don't you laugh young lady. Now I see all your tricks & not going to fall for any!

I am a big fan of my religion Islam. I mean I pray, I read my holy Quran & I try to follow most of the rules & regulations. But I have always struggled with the concept of animal sacrifice. I used to have these silly questions when I was younger but now with the process of being a mother & having a new family but also making decisions for the old ones, made me realize everything has a reason. A definite purpose of some sort. Nothing just happens. No question remains unanswered if you really want to know the answer.
Keeping all the philosophy aside, Muslims have these aqiqah when a child is born. The parents must sacrifice a goat or the parents will not be able to call them their own in the day of resurrection. Jian today you were so heartbroken to know that the animals were going to be sacrificed even though you didn't really know what was happening. I better get some answers fast because I know you are going to get me soon! Do mothers are really able to answer their little ones when they ask why a goat has been sacrificed for them?

24/ 365 PATTING THE GOAT

Yes, mommy is very upset. Because you tend to be a non stoppable storm all around the house, all day long. You break things, you tear everything apart. You have this charisma in you that when I tend to be a little hard on you, everybody just becomes a joined force & try to convince me otherwise. What am I going to do? And my own mom thinks I am the bad one. Talk about democracy & justice. None is present in our house because all you guys are voting for the mean opposite party who apparently likes to torture her beautiful mom with super CUTIFUL BABY tactics!

23/ 365 BLUE BY MAA

MY CLINGY BABY

I hoped to start my year with a blast. But still has this over all lagginess from the post exam anxiety syndrome. Yeah something I just made up. So I made a pack with my sister to do yoga, jogging & other cal burning stuffs! Wish me luck friends. And don't forget to show us some love by leaving some beautiful comments that just makes our day!

21/365  THE BUSY DOC  BY MAA

Have you seen the new movie 'Her'? I have just watched it & I think it's spectacular. The direction & the story!! It felt real in a way that I couldn't describe but only feel. I realized I have a thing for letters.One of my favorite book is about war letters to the families & I also have a high vote for Anna Frank's diary which is all about letters! How about I start writing letters to Jian in my posts which she could read when she grows up? I know it's been done & all that but how would she feel about her mom talking to her in written words, words of love. Oh, yeah I forgot, P.S. I Love You, is also my favorite which you have already guessed I suppose.

20/ 365  YOU WANT SOME, MOMMY?

As you all know I don't regret things. But recently I am having so much thoughts about why didn't I had the opportunity to meet other Baby Blogs sooner? All of them are so informative, so funny. And the baby pictures, they just melt my heart! ( They are so fluffy I wanna die ) I have these relatives who don't take pictures of their babies & think I am doing a bit excess by doing a 365 project..really! If it was possible I would have done a double 365 project so I could treasure every bit of my daughter, not for her but only for my sake! Documenting Jian's little steps keeps be in line, helps me find BALANCE. How about you?

FRIENDS BY BABA

19/365  THE FAST & THE FURIOUS BY MAA

We have a new little guy who is the cutest newest edition to the Hossain Family. Our day begins with huge hugs, thousand kisses & extra special ramblings about the baby of course. Today there was an exception with 2 live big fishes, one escaping & swimming under the bed. Luckily I captured my babies looks which is 100 million bucks a piece at least.

THINKING HARD

LOOKING AT DADDY

BABY'S REACTION AFTER SEEING THE FISH

JIAN'S'S REACTION AFTER SEEING THE FISH

18/365  READING MORNING NEWSPAPER...BY MAA

DADDY'S KISS BY MAA

Milestones are stages in a child's life that usually indicates to their cognition & proper development. Jian was always super fast on reaching her stages & making me a proud mommy. And she never forgets any words, uses complex uncommon words with proper attitude & gestures! If you comb her hair she wants to comb your hair back. If you feed her she will definitely stuff something inside your mouth! There is nothing that my 3.4 year old won't try to do. She has so much life in her, so much light oozes out of personality that sometimes I find it hard to keep it up with her. Here is a little demo of how she runs the things in our home & she knows I can't win because she always has her dad on her side!

17/365  MESSING MOMMY'S HAIR ...BY BABA

For all the reasons you live in this world the most remarkable one would be living for your kids. Today we welcomed our darling newest member to our sweet home. Holding him took me to the part of my life where I felt so alone & afraid even though I was a Pediatrician myself & advised my patients a thousand times before. Simplest things like bathing or breast feeding seemed so hard. Jian was so tiny & I thought I would crush her if I hold her tight or kiss her hard. I don't know why but my eyes teared up when I held her in my arms. She is mine, a part of me that will always shine more than the brightest stars. No matter how hard I kiss her or hold her tight she would not be crushed anymore. She will grow in front of  my eyes & more than I would ever dream.

16/ 365  MY COLORS  BY MAA

Some of Kamal's friends threw him another surprise party. It was so windy & cold outside & we enjoyed the hot steamy snacks & the delicious cake ;)

Jian thought it was her birthday & as usual make us lite the candles twice & cut the cake with her dad. Kamal was overwhelmed by the love & greetings we received.Some of my friends asked for the chocolate cake recipe. Soon we will post the pictures on how we made the cake in our simple rice cooker with our simplest ingredients & secret love potion!

Now for the writing's sake as I am fearing this blog is gradually becoming a photo blog, I tend to write 5 things I love about my husband...

1. He is a great father, his daughter means the world to him. I first saw him crying when he held her for the first time!

2. He is the most responsible person there could be. His friends rely on him so much. They know he will not hurt or judge them but get rid of the problem instead.

3. He never speaks ill of others even if they have hurt him in many ways. This is one of the bad habit I am trying to get rid of myself!

4. He never gets angry easily. I mean I have seen him lose his temper hardly twice in the 9 years I have known him.

5. He lets me grow, be whoever I am, never loses his faith in me. Listens to my unstoppable ramblings even though he is half asleep & been through the hell all day!

What qualities make you fall in love with your husband over & over again? Don't forget to share your love affairs with us!

JIAN WITH HER BABY COUSIN

15/365  SUPER MAN

15/365 PLAY BALL

Today was, I mean it still is, Kamal's 34th birthday. I was super excited & a little bit pumped up for arranging everything. I always try to get the look of his face when I give him the gifts aka surprises. It's so priceless. The simplest things you can do to win over a loving heart over & over again. My sister & I sang " The thousand years by Christina Perry " with the candles of course & I baked him a chocolate cake. He loved everything even my unbearable singing! May be I will convince my sister & post the video on you tube after some editing...wish me luck ;)

MY FIRST EVER CHOCOLATE CAKE!

14/365   BLOWING THE CANDLES BY MAA

I had this friend who was the mother of superstition & she always used to say "Don't you dare to think, & if you do, you are going to doom!!!" I don't believe in superstitions but this always comes true when I DARE & THINK, I am done for the day, going to sleep straight 8 hours & then wake up early, do my 30 minutes yoga. Yesterday we went to a friend's house which was near to the wilderness ( because the nearest mall was 10 miles away & no houses surrounding them & there was foxes & all sorts of wild things doing there things :O )

We came home so tired, my back was all sore & Jian slept in a second. But after a hour my brother woke us up saying his wife's water just broke & she was due more than a month after. We rushed her to the hospital where one doctor said we had nothing to worry about but can do a sonogram in the morning just to be sure. Another one came in the morning & said " The baby could die any minute because there was no amniotic fluid left inside!"

I went in the noon leaving Jian with my mom but a terrible thing happened. Jian put her 4 fingers inside the door hinge & they got stuck. After much deliberation my mom got them out, took her to an emergency, did an x-ray. Everything is fine now, no bone was fractured or shattered except my heart of course.All of this happened in that particular day when I dared to think " I was done for the day!"

12/365 WILDERNESS BY MAA

PINK FLOWERS BY BABA

13/365  MY POPSICLES BY MAA

I caught Jian red handed while doing the laundry. She silently adds washed clothes to the washer & walks away like it never happened. Mommy's little helper always helps me in everything..the dusting, the washing, the cleaning. What would I ever do without her!

11/365   BEING A THIEF

MOMMY I DIDN'T DO IT!

PROMISE IT WASN'T ME

I WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN

I LOVE HELPING YOU MOMMY!!